The sex work industry often conjures images of solitary figures. The stigma surrounding it can make traditional relationships…complicated. However, for those in open marriages, the equation changes. As one escort put it, she looks forward to her husband pouring her a glass of Sancerre while she counts her earnings.
This isn’t a tale of infidelity, but a calculated lifestyle choice. The author met her husband online and entered the escort world shortly after dating him. She openly shares her profession with colleagues, friends, and acquaintances. In a liberal tech industry, her career is often seen as “cool.” Still, the societal stigma persists, forcing her and her husband to redirect conversations to avoid discomfort.
Her background in finance provided a unique advantage: she leveraged corporate skills into a high-end escort business. Fluency in multiple languages, extensive travel, and a background in MMA further refined her brand. Her husband, a tech executive, didn’t flinch when she announced her career change; he simply asked if she needed help with her website. Their relationship thrives on rationality, mutual respect, and a lack of jealousy.
The author works roughly 20 hours a week, earning as much as she did in her previous 70-hour finance job. Clients are appreciative, and her husband supports her fulfillment. Some sex workers are forced to abandon their careers due to partner incompatibility, but this couple treats the profession like any other job.
Their open marriage is not an exception, but a foundation. Both prioritize non-monogamy from the start, acknowledging that one person can’t fulfill all desires. Many couples settle in monogamy, letting go of certain needs. This arrangement allows for growth without the expectation of exclusivity.
The author also has a girlfriend, a fellow sex worker. Her husband explores casual connections, while she maintains deeper bonds. The couple operates on a hierarchy of priorities: work, each other, then everyone else. Even disagreements, like her husband’s late-night conversation with another woman, reinforce boundaries.
Jealousy is less about sexual partners than career ambition. Her husband envies her income potential, while she admires his tech skills. Despite the openness, both remain deeply committed, choosing each other daily.
Monogamy often involves settling. This couple makes intentional choices, prioritizing growth and mutual fulfillment over traditional expectations. Their independent thinking has led them to unconventional careers and an unconventional partnership.
The author’s marriage may seem unorthodox, but it works for them. By making their own rules, they’ve found a balance between freedom and commitment. Their rational approach to life extends to love, proving that fulfillment doesn’t always follow a traditional path.
